From Dream to Deliverance (Phase 2: Decision)

Yes! we all have our dreams. But just having a dream will not make the dream come alive. You must be willing to make a decision about the dream. Today, God’s word for you is “Go for it”. You may have waited too long to make a move; but now is the time. Is it about starting a business, giving your life to Christ, improving on yourself? Decide today, to write that song. Decide today to put in your best in your studies. Decide today to be the best husband ever, and the best father to your children. Whatever the dream is, the time is now. Make the decision and let it drive you. Scripture tells us that “if you are like that, unable to make up your mind and undecided in all you do, you must not think that you will receive anything from the Lord” (James 1:7-8).

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right. So, decide now, write it down. Make a plan, and then work on it every single day. Finally, you can’t make the right decision with the wrong information. Get your facts right. Double check and be sure you made the right inquiry. It will help whatever decision you have to make but trust me, you can’t achieve the dream without the decision to go for it.

As we come to the close of the month on September, May the Holy Spirit guide us into making the right decisions, that will position us for better days.

From dream to deliverance (the beginning)

It all begins with a dream.

Phase 1: Dream

Do you know God has given something?He has given you a dream?

Do you know too, that you’re not just passing through this world? You are on a mission. You have a purpose here on earth. But you live your purpose, you have to know and realize your dreams. You have to work your dream to reality. Don’t just exist. Start living. Start living your dream. Ask God to help you discover what he has put inside of you.

In discovering your dream, you discover your purpose. When you do, then you start planning to achieve it.

So, do you have a dream? Yes

What is your dream? That is for you to find out.

From dream to deliverance ( Part 1)

“Everything is possible for the person who has faith” (Mark 9:23b).

As a priest, probably the two questions I am asked more than any other is, “why did you choose to become a Priest and why is this happening to me?”

You too right now, may be focused on the second question, which in most cases is linked to several other questions like “how long do I have to go through this? Is God not seeing my suffering? What kind of a life is this?”

If that is you, then you will find this message particularly exposing and interesting. Between the Promise and the Provision, we have Time and one cannot tell what happens in “time” only God. Between starting and finishing, a lot of things will happen most of which was never anticipated. When this happens, you need to stay in love, keep faith and never lose hope. You need to understand faith takes you through a process and God uses the process to teach you as well as build your character — you will get discouraged. You will be broken. You may become resentful and give into so much worry. You may become fearful about the future and your inability to accomplish getting what you want might get you depressed. That’s not all. Most of all, you will not be able to cooperate with what God is doing when you don’t understand the process he’s taking you through. If you know darkness gives passage to dawn, why fear when you should be working while waiting?

When you have understanding, then you will know that everything you experienced along the journey up was just a part of the process. With understanding, you will have better and deeper insight about what God is doing, and you will not have any need to be disheartened when tough times come seeking you.

Scripture in Matthew 9:29, “According to your faith let it be done to you”. That dear friend, is the key to the great adventure of following Jesus Christ. God says, you will have to choose how much you need me to bless you. If you believe it, then I’ll do as much. Your believe determines your blessing.

Faith is like a muscle — it develops. It can be strengthened or it can grow weak, depending on how much you use it. God builds your faith with a very predictable process. If you understand it, you can cooperate with it. If you cooperate with it, then you will see that you had no reason beating yourself up.

First, God gives you a DREAM for your life. Then, you have to make a DECISION about it. The third stage is DELAY, where you wait for God to work in his time. The next stage is DIFFICULTY, where God tests you. Then, you might reach a DEAD-END, which will make you want to give up. But in the end, God always brings you to DELIVERANCE, the final stage where we see Mark 9:23 “Everything is possible for the person who has faith”.

If you want to have a stronger faith in God as you go on this great adventure, then you will first need to understand that you will have to go through dark and perilous times. And whenever that happens, you will not be discouraged most especially when you don’t see results or answers right away. Join me over the next six days, as we examine the process.

ASK YOUR SELF:

-What stage of faith do you believe God is taking you through right now?

-How will you respond to what God is trying to teach you in this stage or how he is testing you?

PRAYER: Heavenly father, I trust in your will and plan for my life. Teach me to understand that you are with me even when my mind and experience tells me otherwise.

The champion in you

Why do you get out of bed every day? Is it because it is morning or because you have a dream to fulfill?

What do you tell yourself every morning? It is important what you have to hear you say to yourself. It is important you say positive things to the man in the mirror. It is important to have a great attitude and mindset. It is important to bear in mind you are your number one motivation. No one will motivate you more than you will do yourself and in moving, the first obstacle you will have to deal with is you. You will have to defeat you to be able to defeat them. You will have to move forward to be able to move forward.

What are you committed to?

What are you committing to today?

Are you committed to moving forward or moving backwards?

My commitment is to move forward and to be better today than I was yesterday. I know I have to make sacrifices and to that, I am ready. If I have to tell somebody I can’t go drinking with them today, so be it. If I have to tell you to hang up the phone, so be it. If I have to tell you I don’t have time for your drama, so be it and please don’t take it the wrong way. It is just that we place our values on different things and what I want is different from what you want. From where I stand and from what I see, what I value is not what you value and how can two walk together if they do not agree? You should remember that text from Amos 3:3. So please don’t take it personal.

Your values will have to change if you must make it. Your commitment too, will have to change if you want to make it. Your commitment will reflect what you value and what you value will reflect who you are and who you are is not who you will become but who you already are. But “who you are” can become who you want to be if your commitment changes in the direction of your destination and dream.

Anyone or anything that is taking you away from your dreams and stopping you from being a better person, has to go. Think about this carefully. Anyone, and I mean anyone who is taking you away from your dreams has to go. I don’t know about you, but I am not letting anyone or anything derail me from my goals. I am committed to self development and not self destruction. I am committed to building people and not destroying them. What are you commitments today? Allow me mention just a few; family, health, academics, business and job, personal development, healthy relationships….

Many people are committed to the thoughts that life will stay the same, so they can spend frivolously. A lot more people are committed to procrastinating. Spend wisely and save for bad day. Get up now and do what you have to do. Procrastination always gives the impression there is time even when there is no time. Remember you have a job to do. You have books to read. You have books to write. You have prayers to offer. You have appointments to keep. You have a governor to become. You have a company to establish. You have a fashion school to go to. You have a dissertation to complete and in time. You have a song to write. You have a degree to earn. You have weight to lose. You have a hairstylist to become. In fact you have things to do, so you can’t just sit there procrastinating. You have a dream to bring alive. You have a better you to become. So don’t let people and things that do not matter get in the way because when that happens, you might just end up lost and not finding your way.

Don’t let anyone tell you, you will never be able make it. Don’t believe such lies. Don’t believe anyone who tells you, you will never succeed. It is better you avoid such a person who sings the song; you are a failure, but while using the song as fuel to drive you to determination. You can prove them wrong because you are better than they know. No matter what life throws at you, bear in mind stars shine brighter at night and to be a star you have to shine through the dark. You are an achiever. You are a winner. You are somebody and you are going somewhere. There is a champion in you. Bring it out. We are waiting. The stage is set. Feel the heat from the stage light. Don’t just dream the dream. Work the dream.

Love and blessings

F|B

The making of a champion

If you were asked to tell the difference between the great and the average, the champions, those who wear the crown of victory and those who don’t in one word, what will it be?

For me, it is discipline. I do not know about you, but discipline is the difference between the great and the average. Discipline is the suppression of base desires, and is usually understood to be synonymous with self-restraint and control. Discipline is when one uses reason to determine the best course of action regardless of one’s desires, which may be the opposite of excited. And I tell you, if you lack discipline, then you lack it all. If you lack discipline, then forget about the trophy. Forget about the crown. Forget about the gold star and the medal. The laurels are for the discipline.

Some of them might be short and stout, others may be slim and tall, a few more may be physically challenged, but one thing they all have in common is discipline. Discipline is the one thing winners and champions have in common. Irrespective of your continent, language and tribe, winners every where must learn to be discipline and the truth is, you are a winner once you can be discipline.

The discipline to work hard, to put in your best, and to give in your all. The discipline to stay awake as the candle burns away slowly and you realize with the wax melting away is your knowledge increasing. The discipline to pray and study your Bible. You need discipline to even pick up your lecture notes and study. You may have seen students who wait till the end of the session and a few days before examination to start reading. Na student be that? Well, if that is you, then you lack discipline.

The discipline to remember there is time for everything, so you don’t have to use the time for study in playing soccer. Discipline is not about when all eyes are on you, staring and watching and then you give your best shot. No! That is not discipline. That is eye service. That is mediocrity. It is about when nobody set eyes on you. It is about you doing it for the goal and not for people to see and talk.

The discipline to eat healthy when you have other tempting options. The discipline to spend money wisely when you can be a sporadic spender. The discipline to stop drinking when you know you have reached your limit. The discipline to say no to casual sex and commit to your wife. Yes men need a lot of discipline in their sexual life. I am not saying women don’t, but I am saying men really do need discipline. Isn’t it funny, you can’t even be a good parent if you are not discipline.

Discipline keeps you going when it hurts. Determination births discipline. Discipline builds focus, focus gives direction leads you to the destination. A lot of times life will not give you what you want but what you deserve and what you deserve can be seen in how discipline you are. If you haven’t worked for it, if you haven’t given your all, if you haven’t put in your best, then you don’t deserve it and you shouldn’t get it. Nothing can stop you if you don’t stop yourself. When it gets painful discipline tells you to push through the pain. When he stops at 20 steps, discipline makes you complete 30.

Don’t say why me. Say try me. Even when you don’t see the results and the end is not in sight, stay discipline. Your time will come. You will make it. You will make it to the top not because you didn’t have obstacles, setbacks or because everything went right, but because discipline taught you perseverance. Perseverance increases value and value puts you up and high. You don’t need to step on others to get there. You don’t need to pull people down just so you can go up. Just be discipline. Let me tell you a secret. One thing most of your competitors do not have is discipline. So with the pain and pressure increasing, the number of people standing reduces and it keeps reducing and that is how champions are made. End of story.

Don’t make excuses for your lack of discipline. Instead discipline your excuses.

Praying for our children

We are thankful to all of you, who since the beginning of the month of September have joined us in our dedicated prayers for children all over the world. Thank you so much. You wouldn’t know the extent your prayers have gone and the lives touched and most especially the lives of children you may never see. Our confidence is in knowing we have a God who loves and cares for children and he listens whenever pray to him. We are left with six more days of praying specially for children. I passionately appeal that you join us in this prayer so our good Lord will have mercy and bless the Children. Your will voice definitely make a difference. Remember to share the prayers so we have more and more people praying for them.

Remember Children are a precious gift from God. As adults, we have the privilege and responsibility to care for them, support and help them live the full and abundant life God desires for them. Sadly, love and security are not the reality for hundreds of millions of children who suffer from sexual exploitation, labour in hazardous conditions, or struggle to survive on the streets.

In some places, war and fighting have separated children from their families, leaving them vulnerable to exploitation and harm. Children today, are forced to join armed rebel groups. A lot of them are forced to be suicide bombers and pickpockets. Famine and hunger have forced families to make desperate choices by killing their children to put them out of their misery, slaughtering children for food, and putting some of them to work or girls into child marriage. And despite being outlawed in many countries, girls are still undergoing female genital mutilation and cutting (FGM). In other places, children are trafficked for sex, sent to work in dangerous factories, or locked into domestic servitude. Children in some places are exposed to gang violence creating a culture of violence and restiveness that draws youth into harmful activities.

Abuse, neglect, exploitation, child labour, bodily harm and female genital mutilation and cutting, child marriage, and other forms of harm against children — even murder and child sacrifice — are among the greatest evils in the world.

Join us as we pray for our children. Join us on Facebook and Instagram @frbekomson. Parents take time to be friends with your children. Pray for them. Talk to them. Have them speak with you so you can see through them what they are experiencing but out of fear and shame can’t speak of it to anyone.

Join us.

Join the prayer for our children.

Your power is in your confession.

Your confession is in your mouth.

Your task today is to write a special note to your child telling him/ her how much s/he means to you, how deeply you love and care for her (him) and how blessed you are to have her (him) as your child.

#wepraytothelord

#godblessourchildren

Work, Wages, Welfare and Unemployment

In the parable of the labourers in the vineyard (Matt 22:1-16), we see the extraordinary generosity and compassionate nature of our God. There is great tragedy and pain in unemployment, the loss of work, and the inability to earn enough to live on and support one’s family and in some cases extended family members. The question is how many of us can sustain ourselves by the wages we receive? Today we hear talks about minimum wages. And I ask; the minimum wage in 9ja, na wu e epp? I tell the government weh don sir.

It should be recalled that the Federal Executive Council had on May 25 approved the constitution of the National Minimum Wage Committee to kick-start the process of negotiations for new wage for workers. We hope what the committee comes up with will be such that families can pay their rents without at least borrowing, pay fees, light and water charges and put food on the table without seeking overdraft from the bank.

In Jesus’ time labourers had to wait each day in the market place until someone hired them for a day’s job. No work that day usually meant no food on the table, no money for hospital bills and medications, no money to fix the leaking roof, and buy the children the lovely dress they saw and wanted etc. In the parable, we see our good Lord always reaching out to the labourers and providing for them. We see once again the name Abraham spoke about God to his son Issac in Genesis 22, 14; Yahweh Jireh, God will provide. Unfortunately many people today, still sit at home expecting manna to fall. But we see that even God needs human cooperation to bless us. We see and learn today God blesses us not necessarily be because of our performance, but based on our availability, perseverance and openness to His grace. Like the fish, God put it in the sea, but you have to get it on your boat.

The Master going regularly to the market place tells us God always searches for mankind, and His mercy and blessing is available every moment. If you don’t have it now, then wait for a while. Your time will come. The labourers who worked all day and received their payment at the right time. This is directed at the government and other establishments having to deal with payment of wages. Do you pay your employees as at when due? The first set of labourers complained the master pays the late afternoon labourers the same wage. They forgot, they went into an MOU before commencement of work. Do you know that as a Christian, you signed an agreement with God to walk like Christ? How often do we go back on our agreement with him? The master undoubtedly, hired the other groups in the late afternoon so they wouldn’t go home pay-less and hungry. God is generous in opening the doors of his kingdom to all who will enter, both those who have labourerd a life-time for him and those who come at the last hour. We see a similar play out in the story of the two men were crucified with Jesus at the same time, one on his right hand and one on his left (Matthew 27:38, Mark 15:27–28,32, Luke 23:33, John 19:18). Let us note here that this story is accorded great importance which explains its occurrence in all four gospels of which the Gospel of Mark interprets as fulfillment of the prophecy of Isaiah 53:12. It is not when you started that matters. Today we hear a lot of people saying and reminding others of how long they have been in the church, how long they have served in a men’s or women’s group, how committed they have been, and even the office they occupy in the gathering of worshippers.

Dear Christian or Christiana, it is not how long you think you have known Christ that matters. It is how well you are ending with him. We see today how people start out well, but end up badly. “I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.” It is how well you use your time and the chance.

While the reward for our spiritual labour is the same for all of us having a look at the big picture; (heaven, hell, purgatory) the motive for our daily labour can make all the difference. To those of you who work, are you serious minded or have derailed and joined the group saying “after all na government work”. So because it is government work, it should be treated with lack of seriousness. In some cases persons in the government sabotages government effort so the establishment will be privatized. We are not speaking against privatization, but against sabotage just so one benefits from privatization to the detriment of the poor and low wage earners. Some work only for the reward. They will only put in as much effort as they think they will get back. Others labour out of love and joy for the opportunity to work and serve others. While still in search of a job, one can choose a few days to volunteer in church, in the hospital, or Some departmental store. Money is good but it is not everything. In our world today where to get a job you need a few years of experience, our youths should start considering volunteering until something better comes. When you volunteer, you may not be paid, but you are sure of having job experience and knowledge. Quit sitting at home. Go out and volunteer today.

The Lord Jesus calls each of us to serve God and his kingdom with joy and zeal and to serve our neighbours with a generous spirit. He calls us to be happy for others when they are blessed with what we have we think they don’t deserve. We should celebrate others sincerely for what they have been able to accomplish even when we have not reached such a height. We should celebrate our friends and even neighbours and not give into jealousy, envy and hatred all because they too now have what we have. Be ready to help and support others fulfill their dreams and goals. Be ready to push others forward without feeling threatened about their success. Support that artist. Buy and listen to his album and tell others to do the same. Buy from her and tell others to patronize her. Share that post and let more people know about her and give a very encouraging remark and kind comment. You won’t lose a finger if you do. The world will just be a better place if we appreciate each other, welcome the difference in each other and celebrate that difference.

Your task for this week, is to go out of your way if need be, and support someone achieve her dream and goal. Celebrate someone this week.

God bless you and have a lovely week ahead.

EVERY TIME

1. Every time you stay out late

2. Every time you stay in bed when

you shouldn’t

3. Every time you party all weekend

4. Every time you miss a workout

5. Every time you overreact

6. Every time you sit on the couch

7. Every time you go grab a beer or

drink

8. Every time you say you’ll start

tomorrow

9. Every time you offer an excuse

10. Every time you complain

11. Every time you don’t give in your

best

12. Every time you give up

13. Every time you stop working

14. Every time you stop reading

15. Every time you stop developing

yourself

16. Every time you stop being kind

17. Every time you stop working on

your dream

18. Every time you cheat

19. Every time you backbite and

backstab

You pull yourself backwards. What you must understand is there are two levels. The level you are now, and the next level and only you can take yourself to the next level. It is not about getting a job based on partiality, nepotism and bias, or the car and houses. It is about that deep inner satisfaction one cannot get from material things, that deep sigh you know you deserve what you have because you worked hard to get it. People generally tend to equate doing well with the physical, the material and the office occupied. But doing well goes deeper than that. The fact that you have that job doesn’t in anyway mean you are on the next level. If you are not qualified, then it only means one thing; you are up for a fall. Yes you need to make ends meet, but are you qualified?

You have to move forward and in so doing, you have to bring onboard focus, commitment, determination, endurance, courage, sacrifice and attitude. When you do this, the world will show you success. The world will lead you to the next level. No pain no gain. Sacrifice now to enjoy later. The difference between here and there is “T” which signifies TIME. Many people think of only investing money, but know today we also need to invest TIME. How well do you invest your time? You may be small but when you invest time well, you grow and to those external you may be small but when you get on the pitch, they see the giant groomed over time through hard work. You may be weak, but when you invest your time well, you become strong and life always brings us to the exhibition point and when that happens, they will have no choice but to see what you have to show. It is not the size that matters. It is the time we put-in the size that matters. Hard work always beats talent. But hard work and talent makes you unbeatable.

Be unbeatable today.

Have a great weekend family.

THE PEOPLE FACTOR (together for peace)

Each year the International Day of Peace is observed around the world on 21 September. The General Assembly has declared this as a day devoted to strengthening the ideals of peace, both within and among all nations and peoples.

The theme for 2017 is “Together for Peace: Respect, Safety and Dignity for All”.

The theme honours the spirit of together a global initiative that promotes respect, safety and dignity for everyone forced to flee their homes in search of a better life. Together unites the organizations of the United Nations System, the 193 Member States of the United Nations, the private sector, civil society, academic institutions and individual citizens in a global partnership in support of diversity, non-discrimination and acceptance of refugees and migrants. It was initiated during the United Nations Summit for Refugees and Migrants on 19 September 2016.

Difference in the opinions, values, understanding and thought process of individuals can lead to conflict. When individuals strongly oppose each other’s ideas, and concept, a conflict starts. Conflict can start anytime and anyplace when individuals are not ready to accept the middle path approach which can lead to conflict. Conflict is defined as a clash among individuals resulting in verbal disagreements, physical abuses and tensions. A conflict never provides any solution to a problem, instead it just worsens the situation. Where two or more abound, sooner or later, conflict will occur. It leads to disrespect among individuals, hampers the productivity and individuals often feel demotivated after a fight. Conflicts must be prevented at the right time in order to avoid tensions and other adverse effects. In such a scenario, conflict management comes in picture.

No conflict can just start on its own. There has to be an event or an incident to trigger the same. Disagreements will happen and sometimes over trivial things and if poorly managed, such situations will not only lead to clash, but controversy, antagonism and off course fights. Conflicts can be groomed by racism, nepotism, tribalism, hatred and even jealousy. The list is endless. A few months ago, a 19 year old girl in London, was facing charges of homicide. Your guess might be as good as mine. The story had it that a new girl moved into the block and apparently her presence pose a threat to some of the girls living in the block because she was seen to be more beautiful. So one of the girls took it upon herself to deal with the threat and the best way was for her to end the life of ‘the threat’; the new girl. What a pathetic story. Here in Nigeria, we know the extent people go, just to get the other person out of the way. People are maimed and killed for political reasons and office. People are killed for contracts and business deals. People are attacked and killed over girlfriends and boyfriends and at the moment Nigeria is facing intense conflicts which is claiming lives and properties, and making foreign investors backdown and unfortunately, the government has been and is still trying to control and resolve this life threatening conflicts. A larger number of the populace in Nigeria live in fear and day to day are faced with the reality; absence of peace. There is civil commotion and violence, lack of public order and security. Nigeria seems to have lost serenity and tranquility. Does it seems or is actually has? Well, let that be your contribution. There always is a time to blame. So, yes let us blame the government. Time and time again government has failed us. But let us also blame ourselves for resorting to violence in place of dialogue. I believe there is always is a better way of getting things done and not always violence, destructiveness and brutality. If every Nigerian beginning with our parents and elder statesmen saw peace as a part of the Nigerian Dream, if you and I sons and daughters of Nigeria saw peace as the way forward, then we would have ensured the conflicts we experience not give birth to terrorism and its likes as is now seen in almost every part of the Country.

Let peace begin with us. Let Peace begin with you. Let us give Peace a chance. Remember it is people who fight. It is people who hate. It is people who kill. It is people who are killed. It is still people who suffer. It is people who will have to say no to conflict ending with violence. It is people who will have to say we want peace. Enough of the killings and shedding of blood. Whatever conflicts we have, let us nip it at the bud so it doesn’t end in violence. All of us want peace. Many people build it day by day through small gestures and acts; many of them are suffering, yet patiently persevere in their efforts to be peacemakers”. May we dedicate ourselves prayerfully and actively to banishing violence from our hearts, words and deeds, and to becoming nonviolent people and to building nonviolent communities that care for our common home. “Nothing is impossible if we turn to God in prayer. Everyone can be an artisan of peace”.